Wisdom from my mother in law's conservator
Jan. 6th, 2026 12:54 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
pennswoods Ever since my mother in law had a stroke in autumn 2024, she's lost the ability to plan, make decisions, and even write full coherent sentences. She is ripe for being exploited by those who try to financially rip off the elderly. My husband and his sister were able to convince her to agree to the equivalent of a conservator in Sweden, who helps protect her financially and can advocate for her. The Swedish word for this is gudman. My MIL's gudman is a woman of similar age named Jeanette who is originally from France. I really like her and she is a staunch advocate for my mother in law.
She visited my MIL's apartment yesterday for a regular appointment and told my husband that she really appreciates how sweet and kind he and his sister are to actually be looking out for their mother. Some of her elderly clients have children who are abusive or who are trying to swindle their own parents to take their money.
Chalk this up to another reason why having children is not a guarantee you won't die alone in old age.
She visited my MIL's apartment yesterday for a regular appointment and told my husband that she really appreciates how sweet and kind he and his sister are to actually be looking out for their mother. Some of her elderly clients have children who are abusive or who are trying to swindle their own parents to take their money.
Chalk this up to another reason why having children is not a guarantee you won't die alone in old age.
