Being Treated with Kindness and Respect

There are unfortunately too many things I expose myself to on the internet that contain examples of people treating their loved one like a thing meant to service them and not like a human with their own needs. This includes parents using their children this way, partners, spouses and even friends. 

The disrespect shown by people who supposedly love you and are on your side is heartbreaking. It makes me feel so grateful and also guilty for the kindness, respect, support and tolerance my husband shows me. How did I get so lucky not to attach myself to someone who only loves me for what I can do to make their life better and not because they actually care or respect me? The latter seems so common.