Oh my God, thank you for being brave enough to share your story with us and to bring up all these wonderful points. I especially like how you brought up that words are not inherently good or bad, it's usage that makes them that way. I agree, and I think that although some words have an unfortunate history, we can appropriate them and give them a more positive future.

We ripped the teeth out of it and made it our own.

That's such a powerful statement. I guess for some people it's just really difficult to look past the history of certain words in order to see how positively they're being reclaimed. For example, I think perhaps Benedict is under the impression that someone (presumably male) chose the term "Cumberbitches" for his fans instead of his fans choosing the term for themselves and re-appropriating the word.